Lisin

Words written by my daughter, age 6, inspired by Shel Silverstein

Finding your voice is something people spend their entire lives striving to accomplish. And, when you do, when you finally grow up to become the adult who has figured it all out (I’m still working on that at 40+.), who has found that inner voice that’s so loud and clear, resonating from within to say, “Yes, you’ve got this,” you find strength.

You feel strong. You realize you ARE strong. You feel empowered. Ignited. You’ve found your spark to light your way with clear vision, a north compass, fierce passion and, well, inner strength.

After a few decades of trying to navigate my own way, my six-year-old powerhouse of a daughter seems to have figured it out all out for herself.

During Tuesday night’s books this week, my husband read from one of our family’s favorites, one we’ve been reading since they were born: the timeless Where the Sidewalk Ends. They say poetry inspires. Well, this collection of poems certainly did that and, in turn, it’s our daughter’s work that offers an even greater sense of awe. No offense, Shel Silverstein. Actually, I say thank you to the late writer, one of the greatest, for providing the unsolicited prompt that motivated this Kindergartener to take pen to paper.

First, my husband read “Weightliftress.” This four line poem is about the mighty Nancy Bates.

Nancy Bates can lift those weights

As well as any feller.

If you don’t think it’s ladylike,

Then you go up and tell her!

Within seconds, our daughter said ‘Wait!’ and grabbed the book from her father’s hands. He let her be with the book and continued reading with our son. Meanwhile, she had felt an itch and scratched the surface. No less than a minute later, she handed the book back to him and said, “Here, now read this.”

It was a statement. It was a response to literature. It was her voice.

Right there, on the very same page as “Weightliftress” and – even more interestingly – “Don’t Tell Me,” which they had not yet read, was our girl’s first poem. Actually, she insists that it’s not a poem. “It’s just words people should read.”

Lisin

Written by ZMC (March 26, 2019)

Listen to girls,

Cuz they know best.

You know,

Because boys think girls are not strong.

She says that boys should read it.

She told me that when we donate it, the children who get the book will read it, too. (My ongoing attempt at raising grateful, charitable children – and Marie Kondoing my house and life – is in the form of sweeping through the house every few months and collecting everything in my path and donating it.)

I told her I’m never donating this one, baby. We’re keeping it forever. And I probably should send it to Gloria Steinem. And Oprah.

So all this being said about how amazingly thoughtful and articulate our girl is and how inspiring Shel Silverstein is and how meaningful book time with parents is (in this case especially with daddies and brothers), I’m also a little sad.

Why, at the young age of six years old, does my daughter already know that some boys think girls aren’t strong? There’s no good answer to that question.

However, she’s found her voice. Or…she’s finding it. Perhaps that’s a lifelong journey and hers has just begun.

Her voice: may it grow as she grows. May she know when to whisper, and may she know when to roar.

In a world like today’s, I pray that I do all I can as her mom to remind her to use that sweet voice of hers and to share it for good. I also pray that I remember to take it all in and, probably most importantly, that I hear her.

A new generation is rising, and it’s our job to lisin.

When We Will Not See

“Children are the living messages we send to a time we will not see.” -Neil Postman

My babies.

You didn’t even know that I took this picture of you.

You pose for pictures all the time with silly smiles and savvy style. I really, really like those shots and even taking the selfie version of them with you. But it’s the moments like this one – that you didn’t even realize was happening – that I love the most.

Here you were waiting for a swim lesson, which was running late. It was hot out there at the pool. So hot. Miami in summer hot. In my head, I was doing the whining and complaining I always beg you not to do. You were so patient.  

Picture-perfect:

Big Sis put her arm around Little Brother. On her own while we waited. Just because. Just because she was reminding him not to be nervous for his lesson and that she’d be right there.

And he edged in closer to her. Just because. Just because he was reminding her that he likes his view from there with her arm around him and that he’d be right there.

You’ve been like his second little mama since the day he was born. And you’ve been her partner in fun and kindness (and crime) since the day you arrived.

And now the only roles we want you two to share are best friends forever. It’s ok for you to argue and debate and fight. They say it’s healthy and good for you. But also laugh with, protect and love on one another. You have the gift of each other. And the gift Daddy and I pray for in return is that you’ll always have each other’s backs, even (especially) when it’s the time we will not see.

 

Filling Up

As I turn on the ignition – with two giggling, hurried kids in the backseat strapping themselves into car seats (I swear they were babies like a split second ago, and it feels like we were dreaming of them to even exist a second before then, and I know it was only a minute before then that we were in our 20s living it up in NYC with these little people as amazing visions of a tomorrow on a far away horizon) – I pray that I have all the bags, mini waffles that I know no one will eat and miscellaneous items that the three of us need for the day because we are not turning around to go back home once this rocket ship of a minivan takes off for another Monday morning.

Everything is hectic. Everyone is rushed. But happy. A Michael Jackson mashup is blaring through Pandora for MJ’s littlest biggest fans to dance in their seats.

We’re so hurried. So on the go. And I never grabbed anything to eat on the way. So running on empty.

But I’m already full. I may not have eaten breakfast, but I feel full.

Because in the midst of this manic Monday morning, I look down at my dash and see that my amazing husband must have filled up my gas tank at some point yesterday. He never told me he was going to and never told me after he did it. He just saw my car would need gas in a couple days and thought to take care of it so I wouldn’t have to during the week. Or so I wouldn’t have to at all.

I make him crazy with my unsolicited criticisms and comments and opinions. And, yet. And yet he goes and does stuff like this. I do realize how fortunate I am to have such a partner. I hope he and all of my loved ones feel the gratitude I have for them when I too offer similar TLC.

We are not wealthy but, indeed, our life is rich. Our life is not easy but, indeed, our challenges are nothing compared to what real heroes face and battle. My life is full.  My cup runneth over. I count my blessings, and I feel blessed. 

And now I’m also hungry. Thank goodness for cold frozen mini waffles.